What do you think?

Back in September I received this comment from Ellen:

In 'Eat, Pray, Love' (Elizabeth Gilbert) the author said her guru told her 'that you should never give yourself a chance to fall apart because, when you do, it becomes a tendency and it happens over and over again. You must practice staying strong instead.' This seems impossible sometimes in life when things are thrown at us from nowhere. Do you agree or disagree with the above guru's advice?

And this was my reply. What do you think?

I can see how that makes sense so I suppose I somewhat agree.It might work for some people.

But for me, I find it's best to feel the feelings, even if I fall apart for a while. I have taught myself to recognise that the feeling will pass, as everything in this life does. Then I pick myself up again, raise my vibrations by surrounding myself with beauty and love. Then I practice persistence in my quest for peace of mind! I hope this makes sense. Of course a little glass of vino as a treat and for medicinal purposes helps too! And a dose of deep breathing and yoga.

I am preparing myself for the inevitable times that I will fall apart but recognising that I can and will pick myself up and get on with life.  

Mindfulness and living in the present

"Look at your life as your main career and your divine classroom." Judith Orloff

"People usually consider walking on water or in thin air a miracle. But I think the real miracle is not to walk either on water or in thin air, but to walk on earth. Every day we are engaged in a miracle which we don't even recognize: a blue sky, white clouds, green leaves, the black, curious eyes of a child -- our own two eyes. All is a miracle." Thich Nhat Hanh

"Drink your tea slowly and reverently, as if it is the axis on which the world earth revolves - slowly, evenly, without rushing toward the future." Thich Nhat Hanh

“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.” - Buddha

" Soak in as much of today as you possibly can – the sights, the sounds, the smells, the emotions, the triumph, and the sorrow." Joshua Becker

Self Compassion

If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete." ~ Buddha ~

http://www.self-compassion.org/index.html    Dr Kristin Neff

Self Esteem

It is in giving to others that we build up our self-esteem, because we can only give to others if we are convinced that we have something valuable to give.  Fr Peter McVerry

You cannot be lonely if you like the person you are alone with.  Dr Wayne Dyer

The truth is that as wonderful as our believers are, they cannot give us self-esteem. It is called self-esteem, not other-esteem, spouse-esteem, parental-esteem, or friend-esteem. Nobody can hand it to you or tell you where to find it. You have to build it, earn it, create it, and nurture it from somewhere inside of yourself.   SelfEsteem4Me

You  tend to treat yourself like your parents treated you. If they were kind, encouraging and supportive, even when you made mistakes, you will treat yourself the same way and feel good about yourself. On the other hand, if your parents were harsh, critical and demeaning, you will tend to do the same thing to yourself and feel badly about yourself.Stan Mann

Emerging From Broken -  I thought my high self esteem would come from others.. I guess that is because my low self esteem came from what others taught me about myself. Today I seek to define myself and never accpet the definitions others try to place upon me as truth. ~ Darlene Ouimet

The Past

One problem with gazing too frequently into the past is that we may turn around to find the future has run out on us.  ~Michael Cibenko



Everyone seems to think yesterday was better than today.  I don't think it was, and I would advise you not to wait ten years before admitting today was great.  If you're hung up on nostalgia, pretend today is yesterday and just go out and have one hell of a time.  ~Art Buchwald


Trust no future, howe'er pleasant!Let the dead past bury its dead!
Act, - act in the living Present! 
Henry Wadsworth Longfello


Finish each day and be done with it.  You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can.  Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.  Ralph Waldo Emerson


We can draw lessons from the past, but we cannot live in it. Lyndon B. Johnson

Persistence

"Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan, 'press on' has solved, and always will solve, the problems of the human race." Calvin Coolidge

Behold the turtle. He only makes progress when he sticks his neck out. ~ James Bryant Conant

When you feel depressed, jealous, sad or angry, understand that these are the things that you must heal in order to go where your wholeness is calling you to go. Gary Zukav

Never lose an opportunity of seeing anything that is beautiful. Welocome it in evey face, in every sky, in every flower - Ralph Waldo Emerson

You are not accidental. Existence needs you. Without you something will be missing in existence and nobody can replace it... The stars and the sun and the moon, the trees and birds and earth--everything in the universe will feel a small place is vacant which cannot be filled...by anybody except you... Once you are clean and clear, you can see tremendous love falling on you from all dimensions. ~Osho